“It’s Okay, It’s Okay, It’s Okay, We are all a little lost and it’s alright.” – Nightbirde
When I was younger I wanted to believe that there was one right path for my life. I wanted to think I could “get it right” so that everything would be “okay.” That is what most of us want to believe, “good things happen to good people.” When I realized that this logic was fractured, I then began to feel like life was more like falling with the hope of landing somewhere soft and safe. Life is not fair, not a straight path, and it is not without challenge. It is also a beautiful adventure.
Indeed, life does feel like your falling sometimes and other times you can feel your feet on the ground. That is why this artist’s words stuck in my heart. When I work with patients who have symptoms of anxiety and/or depression I often note that they are trying really hard to “get it right.” For the anxious patient they are trying to prevent something bad from happening and for the depressed patient they are trying so hard to function and yet feel like they are failing all the time. I often give the homework of creating “I can be okay, even if….”statements.
Like, “I can be okay, even if I don’t get the job.” “I can be okay, even if they don’t like me.” You can fill in your blanks.
The point is, we can be okay, we can do hard things, I can keep putting one foot in front of the other.
“You can’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore before you decide to be happy.” –Nightbirde
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZJvBfoHDk0
Written by: Cara Wheeler, PsyD
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